I’m finally in a place where I can write about The Friend Breakup (TFB) of this winter. While not going through each agonizing detail, and to protect parties both innocent and guilty (….and pretty much everyone is both), I will say this: I f’ed up. Big time. But it was complicated. I will also […]
To Listen is to Love
Wednesday would have been my dad’s 77th birthday. He only ever made to 71; ravenous disease consumed his lungs, his bones, his brain. Cancer is insidious, and in his case noiseless and quick — like a kidnapping. It was such a shock. He was irascible, impervious, and seemingly invincible. In both body and mind, it […]
Sempre a casa va a finire
Confession: I’ve spent years — decades, actually — trying to change myself. Seriously. I have done it all, and I always go all in. First example, I bought the whole J Crew line over Christmas break sophomore year at boarding school — even the lilac twinset and the navy shift. Anyone who really knows me […]
One Holy Force of Greatness
The last month has been a time of reckoning. Reckoning with bad actions, reckoning with failures, and reckoning with a year of ignoring the lessons I was supposed to learn. I have the uncanny habit — both nature and nurture — of turning up the music so I can’t hear when my life is talking […]
The Short Stack: A Collection Of Minor Efforts
Last night I dreamt that I attended—maybe even hosted, it’s a bit fuzzy—a girl’s retreat with Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach. Strangely enough, the venue was the dilapidated white farmhouse of my dear childhood friend—a thick redheaded twin who I used to run with in 7th grade who was kind and sweet and who I […]
A Decade of Marriage
A decade of marriage. The best decade. We have grown up together and we have grown together and we are raising grown-ups together. No small tasks. I remember the stone-colored velvety-soft ribbed Patagonia pillow that saved our secrets and sustained our early lovemaking. I remember indulgent nights on the lower east side with too many […]