I’m finally in a place where I can write about The Friend Breakup (TFB) of this winter. While not going through each agonizing detail, and to protect parties both innocent and guilty (….and pretty much everyone is both), I will say this: I f’ed up. Big time. But it was complicated. I will also […]
39: The Overview Effect
Our culture does not celebrate aging as it should. Sure, it celebrates the heck out of little kids. Weekends these days are like Birthdaypalooza, after which we nurse our kids’ chips+juice+icing hangovers or better yet Trampoline Park Strep. And yet we go. TBH, they’re mostly super fun. Little kids claim their age with glee, and […]
Gainful (Un)Employment (and 3 numbered lists)
Employment is not unlike fitness. Getting a job is hard; losing a job is hard; staying at a job might just be the hardest of all. It takes commitment. It takes reliability. It takes a hell of a lot of doing what you some days have no interest whatsoever in doing. It is full of […]
To Listen is to Love
Wednesday would have been my dad’s 77th birthday. He only ever made to 71; ravenous disease consumed his lungs, his bones, his brain. Cancer is insidious, and in his case noiseless and quick — like a kidnapping. It was such a shock. He was irascible, impervious, and seemingly invincible. In both body and mind, it […]
Dolphins and Volcanoes
Last night I dreamt I took a trip with Oprah. Yep, Lady O herself. I have been waiting for this dream for years. YEARS! Across several dream days, O and I laughed, drank tea, talked books and swapped stories. It was heaven. For those of you wondering, she mostly wears monochromatic v-neck sweater-and-slack combos; she […]
Sempre a casa va a finire
Confession: I’ve spent years — decades, actually — trying to change myself. Seriously. I have done it all, and I always go all in. First example, I bought the whole J Crew line over Christmas break sophomore year at boarding school — even the lilac twinset and the navy shift. Anyone who really knows me […]